Baggage Claim Review: Finding True Happiness

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         Now I know why it’s hard to find the perfect person. “They don’t exist.” These were lines stated by the character played by Paula Patton in the movie “Baggage Claim.” From the beginning I knew that the movie would be your typical love story. A woman has a desire to meet the perfect guy after being lonely for a long time. She takes it upon herself to discover her true love, only to find out in the end that what she was searching for was right in front of her. This basically sums up the movie. But as simple as all of that sounded, there were some principles in the movie that really stood out for me. There were things in the movie that I’ve talked about in my own discussions and counseling sessions. There were issues that I’ve heard other people discuss. The important thing that I took from the movie was that you have to know you and be comfortable with you even before you step out to try to find that person who you hope to spend the rest of your life with.The main character Montana Moore was on a mission to find a mate in 30 days. She went through a number of obstacles trying to find the perfect guy. Without giving the movie away, she realized that what she truly valued and wanted was something that she had all along. The thing that I thought about as I watched the movie was that anytime you have a desire to be in a relationship or marriage one day, you can’t rush it. Sometimes people think that because everyone else has a mate and are happy, that means they have to go out and find the same thing that everybody else has. Although there is nothing wrong with meeting people, the question that must always be asked is, “what is my reason for wanting to meet this person?” If that question can’t be answered, then what a person is searching for may not be what they really want. Not rushing simply means “taking time to prepare yourself for the mate that God has for you.” As a woman is preparing herself a man may come along and see her beauty. His only choice will be to speak to you and the rest is history. Once two people connect and discover there is chemistry, this is a great time for a wonderful relationship to begin. I think along the way two people in a relationship should grow together, learn from each other, and allow what they have established to be a basis for their marriage. One of the things that I thought about when watching the movie is what are people’s reaction when they find out the true colors of the people they’re dating? The character Montana had a few run-ins with her exes that started out good, but turned bad. I always say that when you meet a person you’re getting the representation of that person. What happens when they show you who they really are? That’s why I always stress the importance of two people getting to know each other. This could save a lot of heartache and pain in the end. The last thing that I wanted to discuss is that sometimes what people are looking for is right in front of them. I can remember a time in my life where I was searching for perfection. I thought that being with a certain person would bring me happiness. In the end I discovered that my happiness comes from God and within. I realized that all I had to do was trust God with that mate that I dreamed about. It was in the end that Montana discovered her true love. It was when she let go and allowed God to bring to her what was there all along. Once we view love as something beyond the physical, then we will understand it can only be brought to our lives in the spiritual.

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About nuamazinglife

Brandon Jackson is a writer, public speaker, relationship coach, and educator from Indianapolis, Indiana. After graduating from North Central High School in Indianapolis, Brandon attended Morris Brown College in Atlanta. He then transferred to Vincennes University where he received his Associates Degree in General Studies. In 2002 he graduated from Indiana State University with a degree in Radio &TV/Film. Brandon also attended Christian Theological Seminary where he studied for his Master’s in Marriage Family Counseling. Brandon believes that success in life begins when you know how to love yourself first and when you can love others regardless of their flaws. Brandon has spoken at various churches, colleges and universities throughout the Midwest. Brandon also recently was a part of a panel at the 2011 Women’s Expo that featured actor Larenz Tate & Pastor Anthony Jackson. Brandon realizes that everything he has is because of God and he doesn’t take for granted the blessings that are in his life. Brandon’s goal as a speaker is to carry his message of how singles can find happiness and how marriage can be a goal for couples who desire it. Brandon has a DVD out entitled “Success in Your Relationship: a look at being single, dating, and marriage” and is currently working on a book entitled “From a Man’s Heart: Becoming the Man Your Woman Desires.”
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