Represent Right


The other day my wife told me about an interview that Paula Patton did on the Today Show. They were interviewing her about her husband, Robin Thicke, and his recent performance with Miley Sirus on the MTV Video Music Awards. To refresh your memory, Robin Thicke performed a song with Mliley Sirus that was very explicit in nature. Paula Patton’s response on the show was that her husband did nothing wrong, and he was fine to express himself in whatever way he wants when he is performing. She even stated that she is not traditional in her marriage, and even allows her friends to dance in ways that are deemed inappropriate to someone who is married. I was taken aback by her response and thought about all the young women across America who may have been watching this interview. What did they think of her response, what conclusions are they going to make about marriage, and will they be influenced by her remarks. Then I thought about the husbands who respect their wives, love their wives, and represent their marriage in a way that says, “I honor my marriage and how I represent my role as a husband.” I know, I know! It’s entertainment. But, is entertainment right at the expense of sending un-healthy images to young people who don’t know the difference between what’s real and what’s entertainment? Honestly, I feel for Paula Patton. It seems as though she’s accepted the “that’s what my husband does” response. I know they’ve known each other since high school and they have a deep bond with each other. But what about the married couples who honor what marriage is about? What about the young people who deserve to see healthy images instead of tasteless entertainment? So how do you represent as a married couple? What would I tell Paula Patton & Robin Thicke if I had a chance to meet them? I would say for the sake of the true meaning of marriage, don’t have the world see you dance in a way that says you’re single while your words say you’re married and you love your wife. Don’t allow your husband to do what he feels, while you stand as a role model for young women who desire to understand what a healthy relationship and marriage looks like. Lastly, if you have the platform (which you do by the way) let people know by your actions what a good marriage looks like, not what entertainment looks like. I guess the good thing from this whole episode is that we at least know what a healthy marriage does not look like, while we can look for examples in couples that do have a good marriage.


About nuamazinglife

Brandon Jackson is a writer, public speaker, relationship coach, and educator from Indianapolis, Indiana. After graduating from North Central High School in Indianapolis, Brandon attended Morris Brown College in Atlanta. He then transferred to Vincennes University where he received his Associates Degree in General Studies. In 2002 he graduated from Indiana State University with a degree in Radio &TV/Film. Brandon also attended Christian Theological Seminary where he studied for his Master’s in Marriage Family Counseling. Brandon believes that success in life begins when you know how to love yourself first and when you can love others regardless of their flaws. Brandon has spoken at various churches, colleges and universities throughout the Midwest. Brandon also recently was a part of a panel at the 2011 Women’s Expo that featured actor Larenz Tate & Pastor Anthony Jackson. Brandon realizes that everything he has is because of God and he doesn’t take for granted the blessings that are in his life. Brandon’s goal as a speaker is to carry his message of how singles can find happiness and how marriage can be a goal for couples who desire it. Brandon has a DVD out entitled “Success in Your Relationship: a look at being single, dating, and marriage” and is currently working on a book entitled “From a Man’s Heart: Becoming the Man Your Woman Desires.”
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